Welcome back to our Shadow Work series. So far, we've explored the triggers that others present, the hidden parts of ourselves, and the frustrating cycle of self-sabotage. This week, we're going to the very source of many of these patterns: the stories we tell ourselves. Our inner world is often governed by a quiet, repetitive lie that we've come to believe as absolute truth.
This question can feel simple on the surface, but it requires deep honesty. It's about listening to the quiet voice of your inner critic—the one that speaks up right before you take a risk, try something new, or stand up for yourself. This voice often whispers phrases that feel like truths but are, in fact, powerful lies we've internalized over a lifetime.
Some of the most common lies we tell ourselves are:
- "I'm not good enough." This lie is the foundation of so much self-sabotage and fear. It prevents us from applying for our dream job, pursuing a new relationship, or sharing our creative work with the world.
- "I'm not worthy of love/happiness/success." This lie can keep us stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns or prevent us from celebrating our own victories. It tells us that we don't deserve the good things that come our way.
- "It's too late for me." This lie is a master of procrastination. It convinces us that our dreams have an expiration date, shutting down our potential before we even begin.
- "I don't have what it takes." This lie can be specific to a skill or talent, convincing us we're not creative, smart, or capable enough to achieve our goals.
The scary thing about these lies is that they often operate in the shadows, so quietly that we don't even recognize them as lies anymore. They feel like a fundamental part of our identity. When you hear yourself say, "Oh, I could never do that," or "I'm just not that kind of person," you are likely hearing a lie that has become a deeply ingrained belief.
Shadow work isn't about ignoring these thoughts. It's about bringing them into the light. The benefit of identifying the lie is that once you see it, it loses its power over you. You can begin to question its validity. You can ask: "Is this really true? Who told me this? What evidence do I have that it's a lie?"
My challenge to you is to commit to being a detective of your own thoughts. Listen for the repeated phrases that limit you. Write them down without judgment. When you have identified the lie, you can begin the powerful work of replacing it with a new, empowering truth. This is how we begin to heal the unconscious wounds that have held us back. By confronting the lies, we can finally live in the truth of our own potential.
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