Have you ever had fear just show up unexpectedly and paralyze you? There was always a little voice in my head that said I wasn’t good enough and no one valued what I had to say. Whenever I tried something new, it would start to creep in and take over. Then, I would quit and it would validate all of the fears that I had.
I quit!!
I took a hard look at what I was doing, and the patterns I was following and realized that there are so many people who are just like me and really do want to hear what I have to say. I have learned a lot about so many things, and I have a gift that can be shared with others.
I started telling myself the truth. I had to really look at what those closest to me were saying and change my thoughts to match theirs. I was always getting compliments and thanks, as I would help others, but in the past I would downplay it so it didn’t matter.
I am enough!
I began to be aware of what my thoughts and my inner voice was saying. When I caught myself saying negative things, I turned it around and chose to say something positive instead.
Not just positive, but true!!
I started to only tell myself the positive truths that were always there, but I didn’t see before. I wrote them on my bathroom mirror so I could say them to my face every time I went in that room. I recorded my truths on a voice recorder app. I listen to it everyday on my way to work.
As my mindset started to shift, I started looking inside to find what that fear was really all about.
Not being good enough!
Letting someone else down.
Settling.
Failure!
And those are all things that I choose to leave behind. I am changing them to;
I am enough!
I live my best and authentic life!
I choose my success!
I use my tools everyday to focus on the now and the truth. I am worthy of everything that I desire. As I go through each day I am turning my fear into strength. I know that I can do it all. I am capable of having it all and when I focus on the positive, I am finding that I attract more positive into my life.
Focus on the good and good will flow to you.
Your energy will flow and show what you focus on. I choose to focus on success, love and courage!!
What are you going to focus on?
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So our world is changing again! It seems that every time we turn around there is a new mandate, and something else for us to get used to. Right now we are only supposed to be around only those in our immediate household.
And it’s the holiday’s!!
Well, we can’t change what is going on outside of ourselves, and in our community, but we do have the power to control how we react.
I choose to show kindness to others right now!!
There have been times I could have been crabby or angry at others for what was happening, and the truth is they might be feeling the same way too. I only know how I am feeling and what is happening in my life, I can only imagine what others are going through.
I only know my story!
My story is finding ways to make this an exciting adventure, even though the change is a lot to get used to. I can lead by example on how to grow into these changes.
I am enough!
I shine my light through the darkness!
We created a new tradition for the Thanksgiving holiday. We stayed pretty similar to our previous tradition, there were just a few pivots. Instead of going to the movie theater for the newest blockbuster, we stayed home and had a movie day in the living room.
We watched family favorites to lighten our mood. We made the movies come to use, and had junk food from home. Well, it was more of a light lunch than snack foods. No popcorn or candy this time. Instead, we snacked on a variety of meats, cheeses and crackers.
It turned into a fantastic memory that we will all fondly look back on.
It was a time of togetherness and laughter. I will remember the smiles and that is what I choose to look back on when we remember the year of 2020.
This may be the new tradition for Thanksgiving. We can be cozy at home and be a bit healthier, too. Oh and the best part is we can talk during the movie if we want to! It is family etiquette that dictates how you watch!
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Finding your purpose is a journey that so many women are on. This journey can be a winding road. You might even take a few detours or even a U-turn in order to find our true place, and what you need may change as you go on your journey.
My journey began as a young woman who was focused on finding a career and success in the business world. At that time I knew I wanted to stay focused on my career, and having kids was going to be great, but it wouldn’t change my focus. And then…
BOOM!!!
My life changed in the blink of an eye.
I had my first baby!
Everything changed, and my career was the farthest thing from my priority. My purpose and identity became wrapped up in being a mom. I was great at that and it made me so happy. All I wanted to do was change my career to be a Stay at Home Mom...That was my dream job after having a baby.
My husband, who knew me, and my passion for helping and serving others, knew that choosing to stay home would eventually leave me unfulfilled. So instead, I completely changed from a business career to working at a daycare part time. I quickly realized that I loved seeing my little one (eventually ones) in school, while I still was able to realize a new dream.
I found teaching to be a great way for me to find purpose. I was able to have a lot of time with my family because I worked part time until they were both in school. I still had the flexibility to be with my family and make that a priority, while allowing myself to grow and learn as I helped others.
As my children have grown, and become a bit more independent. I have learned that being a mom doesn’t have to be my only identity. I have so much that I want to do and give to the world, that I need to give myself permission to be ok with loving myself and finding what my calling is.
I began to do things that I enjoyed...painting, self care, girls trips with friends and a lot more self discovery of what my purpose in the world is. I found so much of myself when I would read books by women who are empowering other women to find their journey.
The first book that I read that resonated with me on a deep, soul touching level was Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis. I was able to look inside of myself and find that there are so many parts of me that are valuable.
More of the journey to come in Part 2.
